Emotional dependency of men in relationships: revelations 💑

Contrary to popular belief, men seem to place more importance on romantic relationships than women. An in-depth analysis of over 50 studies reveals surprising differences in how the two genders experience and perceive these relationships.

Romantic relationships are often seen as a domain where women invest more, particularly through media and cultural narratives. However, a recent study conducted by researchers at Humboldt University in Berlin shows that men derive greater emotional and physical benefits from these relationships. These findings challenge gender stereotypes and highlight the emotional vulnerability of men.

Men are more motivated by stable relationships

Men are more inclined to seek stable romantic relationships than women. They report falling in love more quickly and idealize the concept of "love at first sight" more often. This motivation is partly explained by the benefits they gain from these relationships, particularly on an emotional and physical level.

Indeed, single men are more likely to suffer from depression, anxiety, and health problems than women in the same situation. Romantic relationships provide them with significant emotional support, which explains their greater motivation to enter into and maintain these relationships.

Health benefits of relationships for men

Men in relationships enjoy better mental and physical health than those who are single. Studies show that married or partnered men have a reduced risk of cardiovascular diseases and chronic inflammation. These benefits are less pronounced in women, who often have a broader emotional support network.

This is because men rely more on their partner for their emotional well-being. In the absence of romantic relationships, they are more exposed to health problems and a reduced life expectancy.

Men are less likely to initiate breakups

Men are less likely to take the initiative to end a relationship. Approximately 70% of divorce requests come from women. This reluctance is explained by their greater emotional dependence on their partner, which makes them less inclined to see a breakup as an opportunity for personal growth.

The consequences of breakups are also more severe for men. They experience more intense emotional distress and are at greater risk of developing mental health issues, or even committing desperate acts, such as suicide.

A limited emotional support circle

Men generally have a more limited social network than women, making them more dependent on their partner for emotional support. Social norms discourage men from expressing their emotions or seeking support from friends, which reinforces their dependence on their romantic relationship.

In contrast, women are encouraged from a young age to share their emotions and build strong support networks. This difference explains why men are more vulnerable in the event of a breakup and less likely to initiate a separation.

To go further: What is emotional dependency?

Emotional dependency refers to a state in which a person feels an excessive need for support and validation from a romantic partner. It manifests as difficulty living without this relationship, often at the expense of personal autonomy and well-being.

This dependency can be explained by psychological factors, such as a lack of self-confidence or a fear of abandonment. It is also influenced by social norms, which encourage or discourage the expression of emotions based on gender. For example, men are often less encouraged to seek support outside their romantic relationship.

The consequences of emotional dependency are numerous. It can lead to increased anxiety, difficulty managing conflicts, and greater vulnerability in the event of a breakup.

To reduce this dependency, it is essential to develop strong social relationships outside the couple. Learning to express emotions and confide in friends or loved ones can help balance emotional needs and strengthen emotional resilience.